l'amour est tres jolie.

Winter is steadily approaching and as the cold continues to creep into our lives and surround us for months to come, I have noticed an ongoing trend of more and more couples poppin up. Apparently, many people have found partners to keep them warm for the winter. It's beautiful ;]

This trend, also known as "cuffing season" has inspired this post.

Enjoy. 

Alessandra Ambrosio & Rodrigo Santoro by Eric Guillemain for Vogue Brazil December 2011

via fashion gone rogue

Happy Nigerian Independence Day!

I love Nigeria, my country and my heart. Shout out to all the Nigerians celebrating out there!

Stay tuned for new Naija merchandise!

'Hope you all have a lovely day! =]

v-day playlist

For those who are in that r&b Jamz, love song kinda mood...I got somethin for ya ;]

Listen to any of these songs to remind you of your special someone. 

1. The Point of it All- Anthony Hamilton

2. You- Dwele + Goapele

3. Spend My Life With You- Eric Benet + Tamia

4. Be With You- Beyonce

5. Differences- Ginuwine

6. Stingy- Ginuwine

7. Always and Forever- Heatwave

8. Weak- SWV

9. They Dont Know- Jon B

10. You My- Lupe Fiasco

11. For You I Will- Monica

12. Dont Change- Musiq

13. Make it Work- Ne-yo

14. Anniversary- Tony Toni Tone

15. My First Love- Avant + Keke Wyatt

16. Who Knows- Musiq

17. Soon as I Get Home- Bobby V/ Babyface

18. Someone- Musiq

19. Ribbon in the Sky- Stevie Wonder

20. Tell Him- Lauryn Hill

an ode to love.

dEARLOVe,
         I gotta tell you somethin' thats been eating me up inside. I have been wanting to tell you for awhile, but every time I try, I loose my nerve. So here goes... I am in love with the idea of you, love. Love, just the thought of you seems to hold so must power, so much reign. People will wait an eternity just to hear your name, especially today. "those three little words" olivejuice  try again. I love you. And when I say love, I'm talking about that breath-taking, all-encompassing, unconditional kinda love. All that romantic stuff that some how, some way lures you to become fully engulfed in it's presence. Im writing this letter with high hopes that it will someday find you, because I have never met you before.  But, I'm the type to never say never so I guess there's a slight chance I may have brushed pass you on a crowded street or exchanged a few witty remarks with you, but I didn't know it. (if thats the case, please forgive me) When we finally do meet, I know its gonna be great.

"A life without love is like a year without summer"

I will be patiently awaiting my favorite season.

Je t'aime l'amour. ♥

Love, 

ofunne

aka 

STreeT_dIVa™

Happy Valentines Day

Due to my hopeless romantic nature, I will take time out to post on my blog today...and all the posts will revolve around love...or lack therof. Stay tuned folks =]

so many people use your name in vain.

love, 

For all the lovers out there, happy valentines day.

i guess i can understand why ppl in love stories are willing to travel miles around to find that special someone....'cause true love is hard to find.

adultery: a deal breaker?

This weekend I went on a Black Leadership Retreat with my school (pictures coming soon!) and we talked about a bunch of topics. One of the most interesting discussions I had this weekend had to do with adultery. Adultery is defined as  "voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband;" Here is where the debate lies, if you were in loving marriage for a substantial period of time (at least 5-10 years) and your partner committed adultery, would you immediately, or ultimately resort to divorce. Some of the people I talked to said divorce would be their primary option. And that adultery is really the only thing that can break the bond of marriage and make it OK to end it. I somewhat disagree, I believe that in this day and age, marriage isn't taken seriously. People don't know or don't realize that marriage is hard. And its supposed to be for life. And there are going to be bumps in the road. I do not, in anyway, condone adultery, or any type of physical or emotional abuse but I just feel like people resort to divorce too quickly. After your first divorce, your chances of having a successful marriage continues to dwindle, drastically. I just think that if you are happily married and your partner steps out on your marriage, you owe it to your marriage and to yourself to examine why whatever happened , happened. I would hope that I know the person I marry well enough to know that that person is going to stick with me through thick and thin. People change, but I would hope that the person I make my husband changes for the better as we grow old together. Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic, but I just believe that there is no way to determine what life is going to throw at you and sometimes we aren't going to be prepared. People make mistakes, and I believe in forgiveness and second chances. I acknowledge the fact that it could take a long time to re-cooperate from your partner breaking your trust, but I dont think its impossible to rebuild that trust and even possibly make it become stronger. But who knows, you never really know how you will act, unless you are actually in that situation. What do you guys think, is adultery a deal breaker in a married relationship?

Three Things Everyone Knows About Black Men (That Totally Aren’t True)

I got this article from here. I know I do a lot of reposts but I just had to post this one. I felt it was honest and it actually made me L O L. =]

Here are some highlights of the article

Three Things Everyone Knows About Black Men (That Totally Aren’t True) 

1. a black man can’t possibly prefer to be with a black women if he thinks any white women are attractive—is definitely one of the three most prominent things everyone knows to be true about black men…that totally aren’t true at all.

"Despite what many seem to believe, a black man attracted to (or even dating) a white—or any other non-black—woman doesn’t automatically mean he’s not attracted to black women. In fact, it doesn’t even mean he prefers white women. Saying “I think Catherine Zeta-Jones is banging” doesn’t mean we don’t think Nia Long, Sanaa Lathan, Gabby Union, Erykah Badu, Jill Scott, Nicole Beharie, Esther Baxter, Res, Sharon Leal, Tamron Hall, Swin Cash, Rissi Palmer, and Aisha Tyler are even banginger (I know that’s not a word, but bare with me).

“I think some white women are extremely attractive” and “I’m completely enamored and in love with black women” aren’t mutually exclusive concepts. In fact, they’re the complete opposite of mutually exclusive, they’re, ummm, whatever the complete opposite of “mutually exclusive” happens to be."

2. Black Men Give Each Other “Guy” Props, Praise, and Points For Sleeping With As Many Women Possible

"The guys in the crew who perpetually sleep around get treated the same way your grandmother treated your 45 year old uncle’s new 18 year old stripper girlfriend at Thanksgiving dinner. Sure, you can eat with us, but you’re going to have to sit at the kiddie table and eat with a spork and a paper plate.

We do give each other praise for one thing though: The ability to consistently find and keep attractive and quality women. Trust me, one five year relationship with one Kerry Washington will get you many more intra-guy points than 120 five-to-fifteen minute relationships with 120 Montana Fishburnes."

3. Black Men Are Commitment-Phobic (Especially “Educated” Black Men)

"It’s a bit ironic that we (black men) are often accused of being scared of commitment, when we’re the same group of people where many of us have had the same barber since O.J. was still doing Hertz commercials.

(Generally speaking) We’re not scared of commitment, or at least no more scared than any other demographic. In fact, most black men welcome commitment and anxiously look forward to it. We’re just scared of committing to the wrong person. Big difference.

The only thing worse than being stuck with a terrible shape-up for two weeks is being trapped in a terrible relationship for two years (and that’s debatable)."

I think if we, as black women, are honest with themselves. Those stereotypes are out there because there are men like that out there. Thats how any stereotype is conceived. But not ALL men are like that. I really relate to the part about being committed to the wrong person. I wouldnt want to commit to someone only to realize it was a mistake either =/

Again you can find the full article here.

"choosy Lover"

I saw this blog posting today. I thought it was quite cute and that I would share it with you all. Original post can be found here.

‘Choosey lover, boy I’m so proud of you… I’m so glad you choose me baby, and I’ll make you happy’

The quiet simplicity of the song’s lyrics often deters me from singing along. I would rather listen and wear the quiet smile of futuristic understanding.

My search is for a quiet love. Ambitious love… That fearless with invisible wings type of love.

I want that old love, that Nat King Cole featuring Ella Fitzgerald type of love. But still keep it fresh love, so can Trey Songz sing the chorus?

If this was a survey, I would tick ‘STRONGLY DISAGREE’ next to the statement that reads ‘I want love to sneak up on me and yell surprise’

I want love to take purposeful steps towards me and say hello. I want to look into love’s eyes and see a reflection of my own recognition ‘Oh hello…it’s you…finally’

I want love to take me to dinner and adore the way I sometimes drop my fork. Hold my hand in the busy streets and protect me from gum wrappers lying on the floor.

I want love to know me, I want to take off my clothes and show myself, my body, my spirit, my mind, my own personal love…

I want love to judge me, upgrade me, elevate me towards a greater love; Self Love.

I am single because I am waiting…